21 What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a rod of discipline, or shall I come in love and with a gentle spirit?
21 What will ye? shall I come unto you with a rod, or in love, and in the spirit of meekness?
21 What do you wish? Shall I come to you with a rod, or with love in a spirit of gentleness?
21 So how should I prepare to come to you? As a severe disciplinarian who makes you toe the mark? Or as a good friend and counselor who wants to share heart-to-heart with you? You decide.
21 What do you want? Shall I come to you with a rod, or in love and a spirit of gentleness?
21 Which do you choose? Should I come with a rod to punish you, or should I come with love and a gentle spirit?
Matthew Henry's Commentary on 1 Corinthians 4:21
Commentary on 1 Corinthians 4:14-21
(Read 1 Corinthians 4:14-21)
In reproving for sin, we should distinguish between sinners and their sins. Reproofs that kindly and affectionately warn, are likely to reform. Though the apostle spoke with authority as a parent, he would rather beseech them in love. And as ministers are to set an example, others must follow them, as far as they follow Christ in faith and practice. Christians may mistake and differ in their views, but Christ and Christian truth are the same yesterday, to-day, and for ever. Whenever the gospel is effectual, it comes not in word only, but also in power, by the Holy Spirit, quickening dead sinners, delivering persons from the slavery of sin and Satan, renewing them both inwardly and outwardly, and comforting, strengthening, and establishing the saints, which cannot be done by the persuasive language of men, but by the power of God. And it is a happy temper, to have the spirit of love and meekness bear the rule, yet to maintain just authority.