191 Then it was told Joab , "Behold , the king is weeping and mourns for Absalom ." 2 The victory that day was turned to mourning for all the people , for the people heard it said that day , "The king is grieved for his son ." 3 So the people went by stealth into the city that day , as people who are humiliated steal away when they flee in battle . 4 The king covered his face and cried out with a loud voice , " O my son Absalom , O Absalom , my son , my son !" 5 Then Joab came into the house to the king and said , "Today you have covered with shame the faces of all your servants , who today have saved your life and the lives of your sons and daughters , the lives of your wives , and the lives of your concubines , 6 by loving those who hate you, and by hating those who love you. For you have shown today that princes and servants are nothing to you; for I know this day that if Absalom were alive and all of us were dead today , then you would be pleased e . 7 "Now therefore arise , go out and speak kindly to your servants , for I swear by the Lord , if you do not go out, surely not a man will pass the night with you, and this will be worse for you than all the evil that has come upon you from your youth until now ." 8 So the king arose and sat in the gate . When they told all the people , saying , "Behold , the king is sitting in the gate ," then all the people came before the king . Now Israel had fled , each to his tent .
Matthew Henry's Commentary on 2 Samuel 19:1-8
Commentary on 2 Samuel 19:1-8
(Read 2 Samuel 19:1-8)
To continue to lament for so bad a son as Absalom, was very unwise, and very unworthy. Joab censures David, but not with proper respect and deference to his sovereign. A plain case may be fairly pleaded with those above us, and they may be reproved for what they do amiss, but it must not be with rudeness and insolence. Yet David took the reproof and the counsel, prudently and mildly. Timely giving way, usually prevents the ill effects of mistaken measures.