17 Then Saul said to David , " Here is my older daughter Merab ; I will give her to you as a wife , only be a valiant man for me and fight the Lord'S battles ." For Saul thought , "My hand shall not be against him, but let the hand of the Philistines be against him." 18 But David said to Saul , " Who am I, and what is my life or my father's family in Israel , that I should be the king's son-in-law ?" 19 So it came about at the time when Merab , Saul's daughter , should have been given to David , that she was given to Adriel the Meholathite for a wife .
Matthew Henry's Commentary on 1 Samuel 18:17-19
Commentary on 1 Samuel 18:12-30
(Read 1 Samuel 18:12-30)
For a long time David was kept in continual apprehension of falling by the hand of Saul, yet he persevered in meek and respectful behaviour towards his persecutor. How uncommon is such prudence and discretion, especially under insults and provocations! Let us inquire if we imitate this part of the exemplary character before us. Are we behaving wisely in all our ways? Is there no sinful omission, no rashness of spirit, nothing wrong in our conduct? Opposition and perverseness in others, will not excuse wrong tempers in us, but should increase our care, and attention to the duties of our station. Consider Him that endured contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be weary and faint in your minds, Hebrews 12:3. If David magnified the honour of being son-in-law to king Saul, how should we magnify the honour of being sons to the King of kings!