7 Lies about ‘Who You Are’ That Are Destroying You 

We can thank our new “normal”—the gig economy in which we live—for enticing us with this new set of lies. 

There’s no doubt you’re familiar with the idea of having a side hustle or participating in the “gig economy.” 

In fact, you or a friend or family member may have a job on the side to help make ends meet or to save for a special purchase.

In 2019, 35% of the American workforce was a part of the gig economy, up from five years prior. That means 57 million Americans were self-employed in a part-time or full-time capacity getting paid for their time, skills, possessions or expertise. In addition, 68 percent of all gig workers surveyed joined the gig economy in the last five years. 

This gig economy in which we work has actually permeated every facet of our culture—not just the labor force or economics. It’s changing the way we live everyday life because it carries a strong underlying message that makes promises, which are deceptively destructive:  

Freedom. Flexibility. Control. More money for the future. Unlimited possibilities. 

Achieve the “American Dream.”

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On the surface, these lies seem benign. After all, they are connected to virtues such as working hard, achieving educational success and raising children. 

Upon closer inspection, however, we see the danger of aligning our identity to these ideas. They distort the truth of who God says we are in Christ.  

Our sense of meaning and significance has become tied to our experiences, our relationships, our knowledge, our stuff, our children and our past.  

Continuing to embrace and live out these seven lies can have dangerous consequences.  

Let’s look at how Jesus offers truths that refutes these destructive 7 lies:

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As children, we’re asked what we want to do when we grow up. As adults, we’re asked what we do for work. And at the end of our lives, we’re measured by what we’ve done. 

It’s not surprising, then, that we believe the lie that we are what we do. But there’s no end to a life of doing. Doing does not result in done. It only leads to more doing. In fact, there is no badge of honor in a life of doing—only exhaustion and despair.

Lie #2 - You Are What You Experience

Experiences have become the new currency. Amassing stuff and getting things aren’t as valuable anymore. And even when we buy those new things, we’re often buying them for the experiences that they'll help create. 

The problem is that experiences are temporary, and a life driven to get more, do more, and have more experiences will only lead you further down a path that you might already be familiar with—a life of comparison that’s filled with jealousy and envy. 

Lie #3 - You Are Who You Know

This lie that 'you are who you know' is so deceptive. On the surface, while smartphones and the Internet appear to be increasing our connection with one another, they’re actually doing the very opposite. They’re exacerbating the problems of disconnection, isolation, and loneliness. 

The fact is, we are more disconnected than ever before. And a life built on this lie doesn’t lead to the thing it promises: greater levels of meaningful connection with others. Ironically, it actually produces the exact opposite: isolation.

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Knowledge has the power to shape and form our identities, which is precisely why Thomas Jefferson wanted to freely promote knowledge, while the dictators Hitler and Pol Pot wanted to control and restrict it.  

While knowledge is definitely valuable, the pursuit of knowledge—over and above everything else—doesn’t ever satisfy. You’ll inevitably meet someone who knows more than you, and it’ll take a lifetime to catch up to them. Or, you’ll be working for someone who doesn’t even know half of what you know, yet they’re making double your salary. 

Lie #5 - You Are What You Own

It’s shocking, but the way we spend our money surprisingly reflects what we value, who we think we are, and how we want to appear to others—more than we might be aware of or even be willing to admit. 

There’s no wonder we believe the lie that we are what we own; our culture has infused status and value into material objects. But when our focus is on the things we own, contentment is as far away as the next undiscovered galaxy in space.

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On the surface, believing the lie that you are who you raise doesn’t seem too bad, since involvement in your child’s life is better than neglect. However, underneath the surface, this lie frauds us into believing that our children’s success is our success. And their failure is our failure. 

But the fact is, no matter what your children accomplish or achieve, it will never satisfy. Nothing they do will ever make you feel whole, fixed or content. They will never be able to cover up the shame from your past because you are not who you raise.

Lie #7 - You Are Your Past

Do you see the past in your present? Do you see how the things that you’ve done, and the things that others have done to you, are still affecting you today? In your everyday life? 

If the answer is yes, then the lie that you are your past has latched onto you as well. Believing in this lie will disable and destroy your future if you find yourself filled with bitterness and unresolved hurt from the past.

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Living in chains to the seven lies of the gig economy is tiring. It’s a grind and a hustle just trying to keep up. It’s actually a fool’s game because you will never feel caught up.

So, do yourself a favor and stop believing the lies! 

But beware this warning. 

While there is definitely a sense of freedom in knowing what and who you are not, ridding yourself of these seven lies won’t fill you—it’ll just empty you.  

Unless you replace these lies with the truth of who you really are, you’ll just find another set of lies—even stronger and more destructive—to replace these with. 

However, when we actively resist these seven lies and instead pursue the truth—the path of following Jesus—we’ll begin experiencing what true freedom and flexibility feel like, which, ironically, is the very thing that our culture falsely promises through these lies.

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This is why Jesus’s invitation into truth and freedom makes so much sense: “Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take up my yoke and learn from me, because I am lowly and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matt. 11:28-30) 

The path to freedom is through Jesus. The way to discover truth is through Jesus.

When you decide to lay down these seven lies—and any other foundation you have been building your life upon—and instead follow Jesus, your status will change from slave to child. From enslaved to free. From no inheritance to full inheritance. From worker to heir.  

From being defined by what you do, what you experience, who you know, what you know, what you own, who you raise, and your past, to being defined by what Jesus has done for you.

Then and only then will you finally find rest from the hustle, grind, and lies of the gig economy.

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