Once upon a time, jealousy and comparison and coveting was limited to the people you knew.
Your neighbor gets a new car; your car is a lousy piece of crap; you feel jealous. Your coworker gets a raise; you’ve worked your tail off without getting a raise; you feel worthless and angry. Your church friends have wonderful, tastefully decorated houses, like snapshots out of Real Simple magazine. Meanwhile, your house is like something out of Prisons and Penitentiaries magazine, which makes you feel like a failure. Your brother’s kids are respectful, well-behaved kids, who say, “Please,” “Thank you,” and “I’ve memorized all of Ephesians.” Your kids make poop jokes at the dinner table.
In the good old days of jealousy and comparison and coveting, we compared ourselves to those close to us. When someone near to us succeeded, we felt like a failure.
But the good old days are gone. Now, thanks to the Internet, we can feel like failures all the time.
When you get on Pinterest, you are instantly assaulted by tasteful Mason jars, beautifully sculpted furniture, immaculate hair braids, and gourmet foods. Meanwhile, your house is decorated in a style called “Wal-Mart,” and you are serving your kids gourmet mac ‘n cheese.
Things aren’t much better on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram. Every day hundreds of people post about the awesome life they are living. Newly engaged couples post photos of themselves sitting together, foreheads touching, fingers intertwined. Meanwhile, you’re single, with no prospects other than a full Netflix queue. Parents give a shout out to their four year old, who just learned one hundred Latin words. Meanwhile, you’re still trying to potty train your four year old (that would be me). Your fellow writing buddy posts that he just signed a book deal. You’re still trying to get someone other than your mom to read your blog. A woman in your church publicly thanks the Lord for helping her lose one-hundred pounds. You spend your days wearing sweatpants and gym shorts.
Is it wrong for people to post happy status updates and photos? No, of course not. We should rejoice with those who rejoice. We should give thanks when someone gets engaged, loses a lot of weight, or signs a book deal.
But the Internet has dramatically, exponentially increased the temptation to compare ourselves to others.
It’s time to stop playing the comparison game.
Every time you open your browser or app, remember:
Don’t let the Internet make you miserable. Don’t let the Internet determine how you see yourself. Serve faithfully and let God be the judge.
Stephen Altrogge serves as a pastor at Sovereign Grace Church. Find out more at The Blazing Center.